Be aware of the signs
Domestic abuse can happen to anyone. It is often brushed under the carpet by society and minimised by those experiencing it.
It is important to remember that victims may respond very differently to domestic abuse. Some may appear depressed and withdrawn, others may appear agitated and angry. Similarly, perpetrators of domestic abuse will not necessarily fit stereotypes. Some will be overtly aggressive and domineering. Others may appear concerned, attentive and charming.
It is important to be alert to the possibility of domestic abuse and recognise the signs that it may be happening. Signs can be visible and non-visible and include:
- visible bruises or injuries, maybe as a result from choking, punching or from an object - injuries may be inconsistent with the explanation given
- attempts to cover up bruises or injuries with heavy makeup or clothing - clothing may not be consistent with the weather (for example, wearing a scarf during the summer)
- unplanned or unwanted pregnancies
- misuse of drugs or alcohol (this may be used by the victim as a coping mechanism)
- eating disorders
- self-harm, suicide attempts
- depression
- frequent or over-use of medication
- missed appointments
- partner accompanies victim, answers all questions, may appear to be dominant
- victim appears frightened, ashamed, embarrassed, reluctant to speak or disagree with their partner, avoids eye contact
- victim has few or no friends, may make excuses not to meet friends or colleagues socially
How you can help
If you think a friend, family member or work colleague is experiencing domestic abuse, there are things you can do to help them. Raise the issue, listen, acknowledge the situation, give support and offer practical help.
Visit the help and support page for a full list of available support services.
Remember to take care of yourself too.